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November 16th, 2012 at 07:45 am

Thank you for the birthday wishes from yesterday's post.

I mentioned that my best friend consulted with the bankruptcy lawyer about Chapter 13. She's moving ahead with it; I don't have an opinion on it.

I do have an opinion on her attitude. That is what I'm disappointed it. My opinion of her has always been high, she is the godmother to my fourth child. I've always thought that she found herself in situations due to circumstances, more so than judgment (or lack of).

The attitude today was: Upon the advise of my lawyer, I don't need to pay my creditors. (I get that is probably standard). Then came the, it is payday and I can go out tonight and not worry! Then: And, I can sleep in tomorrow because I can't go to the second job anymore because that means I make too much money to proceed with my bankruptcy?

Huh? I don't understand where this attitude is coming from? Is it giddy liberation from the bondage of debt? I don't even care to analyze it, because the whole thing seems very ... sleazy? unethical? immoral? to me.

I know I said I don't have an opinion to share, but sadly I do. Makes me wonder what we really have in common anymore. The sad reality is: I am a cheap therapy. She uses me to dump on and look for advice.

The lessons of growing up continue to come.

It may really be time to fade.

And bloom elsewhere.

6 Responses to “Disappointment”

  1. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    Now her telling you this makes it seems like she believes that you would wholly approve. That says something about what she thinks of you--or perhaps only how she mostly can only think of herself.
    Maybe the job she is leaving will be a blessing to someone who is really in need of work.

  2. laura Says:

    Thanks for pointing that out, Joan, about the job being a blessing to someone who might need it. I like that.

  3. NJDebbie Says:

    Laura, sorry I missed your birthday post. Happy belated birthday! As for your friend, I really don't know what to say, but I also like what Joan had to say. I pray to God that I never have to file bankruptcy because I don't know what if I can live with myself.

  4. LuckyRobin Says:

    I know when my SIL and ex-BIL filed for bankruptcy they were giddy about having that load off their shoulders and then bought a bunch of junk that they still couldn't afford to celebrate. People with bad judgement remain people with bad judgement whether they are in debt or not. With that kind of attitude she'll probably be back over her head in no time once the bankruptcy goes through. It's kind of like a diet. You may lose a lot of weight but if you don't change the underlying behavior that got you overweight to begin with, you'll gain it all back and more once the diet is over.

  5. PatientSaver Says:

    Words of wisdom: "People with bad judgement remain people with bad judgement whether they are in debt or not."

  6. Jerry Says:

    Wow, that is really interesting... and sad. I think that many people just are not raised with any concept of what is and is not ethical or correct when it comes to money. I agree with the above, if I had to declare bankruptcy it would lead me to be completely mortified and embarrassed, because that is how I was raised. There is just no insurance that people are taught that way, and if they believe that there are no consequences for overspending (or anything else) then they will act accordingly. Sorry that this has become a troubled time for you...

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