I have a very good friend who is the parent of one of my daughter's best friends. She and her husband married late and had three children, the last well into their 40s. The husband lost his job on 4/15/10 - he was a very well paid professional (most likely over $250K). He had to get legal counsel to get a decent severence package which was 6 months. He thankfully got a job on 12/15/10. How they managed financially, I do not know. She mentioned borrowing money from her mother, cancelling some trips, etc. I could see no outward changes in their spending: first run movies on a regular basis, buying a 2 year membership to certain places we frequent, constant dining out, etc.
Today we were on the phone when her doorbell rang. She put me on hold and came back and said quite excitedly, "Will you do the happy dance with me?! Apparently our car is paid off! I thought we had a six year loan ... it must have been a five year loan! Wa-hoo ... we have two paid off cars!"
(Her congratulatory letter and the title of the car were fed-exed to them, and that is what she opened.)
I said, "Of course, I will do the happy dance with you ... but didn't you know that this was the last car payment?"
She laughed and said, "No ... no, I didn't know. But I sure am happy!"
I don't think I'd function well like that. Is ignorance really blissful? Apparently so ...
"Will you do the happy dance with me?"
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I wondered seriously how they managed during the time of the layoff. My husband makes significantly less than that, we've got almost double the kids (they have 3, we have 5), AND in the past four months we lost the income from my husband's second job which he had with my father. In conversations I would say, "We have had to really prioritize our expenditures since ..." and she would laugh and say, "Oh, you're good about pulling in the reigns. I don't know what we'll do." I should add that we DO have an EF of three months bare bones. I assumed that people who have a lot more income have a lot more saved than us. I guess that assumption isn't really true ...
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