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Update from the Conflicted One

August 9th, 2013 at 02:35 pm


Attitude tune-up complete.

Winston Churchill said "We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give."

My mom and stepdad came by yesterday after my post with a 15# bag of Blue Buffalo puppy food. And an XXS harness for Teddy. And a garbage can for the girls' room (my mom helped them organize) and today will be bringing buy a shelf they found at Hobby Lobby. More treats like Baby Bell cheese, makings for my husband's favorite two ingredient dish out of Trader Joes, and a water melon.

I said it was totally unnecessary, but thank you. My mother then set me straight. My stepdad had a mid-life career change to become a teacher with the tuition and books paid for by my grandpa (her dad). And my grandparents paid off the mortgage and reduced the house payments.

And I suppose that I am coming across as a bit stressed about money by my concern about DH's potential job loss. And I take my mom's ads and coupons. And I've mentioned twice now that I'm disappointed that I can't find a job for the hours I'd like. And I wasn't planning on $980 for books, just $500. And my mom was worried about where from the budget is the other $180 going to come from (since I was able to get them for $680). And my mom was with me when I picked up the free samples of the Rxs for my daughter (which saved $400+).

So, with that, my mom will be helping out. With treats and items that will make life easier or more practical. (There will be a garbage can for the boys room coming and hooks for robes). And if I need money, I can always ask. Though she knows I most likely won't.

And I can also expect a dinner once of week of grilled chicken breasts.

So, I am no longer conflicted. The root of the problem lies deep and I suppose that it really only has to do with me feeling undeserving and inadequate at some level. Sort of like, I'm fine without your money and help. Makes me sad.

Off to read the blogs.

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4 Responses to “Update from the Conflicted One”

  1. creditcardfree Says:
    August 9th, 2013 at 03:06 pm 1376060762
    1376060762

    Sounds like your parents are paying it forward! And likely you will as well...you, too, are a giving person. I expect that you will not count on these gifts, and ask only when absolutely needed. It's all good.

    I feel some gratitude that high school books are not a big portion of our expense. We paid a $65 fee, and $9.50 for a language arts workbook. Are the books you bought able to be rented from one of those online sites? I know many college students now do this.

  2. CB in the City Says:
    August 9th, 2013 at 03:28 pm 1376062111
    1376062111

    I am sure this is giving your mom lots of joy, so accept it in that spirit. Someday you will be able to pay it forward, too.

  3. PatientSaver Says:
    August 9th, 2013 at 08:16 pm 1376079396
    1376079396

    Awww, big hug. You deserve all those things and more.

  4. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
    August 10th, 2013 at 01:43 am 1376099037
    1376099037

    See if next summer your high school kids can organize a used text book sale & exchange at their school--maybe on registration day or something like that. If they organize it they might also be able to get the very best prices, as well as help other families keep their expenses down.

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