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You can't jump from the fire if you don't have a net to catch you.

February 2nd, 2012 at 09:25 pm


That was the profound piece of wisdom I passed on today to my best friend, not sure where I heard that little gem. I had to resort to tough love and really tell her how it is (as I see it based on the information she has provided me).

You know enough about her from my posts: single, no dependents, never married, condo owner, employed in a very hireable field, ADD causes her to make in the moment decision with little regard to long-term consequences, lots of debt, student debt she's not paying on, she's 45, etc.

Her present situation is she is employed in the health field and is well compensated. She works at our local hospital. She injured herself one week ago and was placed on disability/workmans comp, becuase there was concern it was a stress fracture. Stress fractures can't easily be determined, so she thought she was cleared for another week at home. This was after seeing the PT and reporting back to the MD in Occupational Health. Apparently the way the MD who never touched her foot worded his report (something about alternating between sitting and standing) the Workmans' Comp people and her direct boss (whom has already written her up for excessive absences) have decided she CAN work and SHOULD be at work. She (BF) is crazy mad, threatening to "quit right now."

I had to say that IF she had an EF of three months living expsenses, and a budget, and was prudent, maybe she could do it. Since she doesn't have another job lined up (though she is looking) she should just suck it up and go to work today like they expected. She didn't like what I had to say, and said, "Yes, I know. Yes, I know. I *should* have somthing to fall back on." She was mad at me, clearly, for not supporting her plot to quit on the spot. I can't do that.

Lesson: It is best to have a plan. And an EF.

The End.

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3 Responses to “You can't jump from the fire if you don't have a net to catch you.”

  1. Bob B. Says:
    February 2nd, 2012 at 09:34 pm 1328218450
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    I know someone who quit a job several years ago because they were "fed up". No EF (I don't have a sufficient EF either, so I can't talk on that one).

    Anyway, she is still paying for her decision years later. Similar situation, no kids, single.

    There truly are consequences to your decisions.

  2. CB in the City Says:
    February 2nd, 2012 at 10:17 pm 1328221046
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    I often feel frustrated at work and think "I'll just quit." Of course, I can't. What amazes me is how quickly the situation turns around -- even within the same day I can feel 100% better about my job. It's never good to just follow your (temporary) emotions. You have to keep a level head.

  3. creditcardfree Says:
    February 2nd, 2012 at 11:49 pm 1328226565
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    Great job telling her the truth she needed to hear!

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