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"The one that got away ..."

August 27th, 2011 at 06:31 pm

My best friend is several years older than I and not married with no children. We've been friends since I was 16 and she was 19. When all the good catches wanted to marry her, she was very much into the bad boy, under-achieving musician type. Well, fast forward to when she got herself educated and become a home owner, then the ones she wanted didn't exactly want her.

There was one man six years ago. Met on a dating site (not sure which one) and he appeared to be a catch. He was nice looking, had a good job, was a day trader on the Chicago Floor, headed up his own investment company. Had a nice condo, nice car, ex wife in Greece with no children. He was Catholic and was a mentor at his old high school.

They dated for about four months before thing got bad. He was nice and interested in her and her friends (hell, he even came to my daughters' open house dance when they were 5 and 6. He held the baby and gave a bottle, he liked the little boys who were 1 and 3.

He and my best friend desperately wanted my DH to go to work for him. He was looking to expand his business, and my husband is an accountant by education, but also has a successful sales history in insurance. The $ potential was unlimited and it was "such a great deal." I told DH to stay where he was, in his nice normal job with a decent dalary and decent benefits. Plus I figured if things went bad between the man and my bff, DH might be put in an awkward position. DH listened to me, stayed put, and then things went south.

The relationship between the two of them, my friend and the man, went horribly bad when she said "I love you." Rather than him loving her back, he laughed and said, "Why wouldn't you? I'm perfect." After that it spiraled out of control with blocking phone numbers and stalking reports, etc. That is irrelevant though.

She did lament many times after that "The one that got away" ...

She looked him up and apparently he was arrested earlier the year after a Ponzi scheme where he bilked investors out of $3.5 or $1.5 million depending on which report you read. All he had remaining to his name was a luxury car, a Rolex watch, and an interest in an unbuilt condo complex in Greece. He was apprently living with his parents at the time of his arrest. He turned himself in and requessted to remain in federal custody pending charges or the investigation or whatever. He made the FBI list of top stories/arrests. I guess that this point they have him on mail fraud - maximum 20 years in prison nad a $250,000 fine.

I had to laugh and say "Aren't you glad he was the one that got away." and to DH, "Aren't you glad you listened to me and stayed where you were?"

Definitely a shock to find, but makes me love my basic life all the more!!

4 Responses to “"The one that got away ..."”

  1. LuckyRobin Says:
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    Sounds like your friend was very lucky he responded to her like a jerk that day.

  2. My English Castle Says:
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    Oh man--Another lifetime ago, I dated a floor trader at the CME for a couple years. He didn't get away, but I did--and what a good thing that was. I'm sure there are lovely people on the trading floor, but it makes me laugh to hear another bad story about another bad guy there.

  3. Jerry Says:
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    Any time someone tells you "I'm perfect" that HAS to lead to about ten red flags waving frantically. (Run away... RUN AWAY!) There's no insurance that a really nice-seeming person won't turn out to be a complete tool, but extremely arrogant people seem to run a pretty doggone high percentage.
    Jerry

  4. CB in the City Says:
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    I agree with Jerry. Arrogance is is like a huge flashing light saying, "I'm a jerk, I'm a jerk, I'm a jerk..."

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