Dealing with difficult people: Update

January 23rd, 2009 at 06:10 am

Last week I posted on the difficult situation ("no win") that I have found myself in regarding my reltionship with my best friend (term used loosely). I didn't have to avoid her because she didn't call me. This is fine, since I wasn't in the mood to deal with her.

She called yesterday to moan about things. I spent under two minutes outlining that I had to get dinner done, homework checked, etc.

She: Well, call me later. I gottt talk to you.

Me: Gosh, it's a busy night. And tomorrow we've been invited to an Opening at an art gallery where *DD11*'s picture is. [The photographer friend] submitted it to a juried panel and it was accepted. I'll talk you on Saturday.

She: I really need to talk to you, so I'll call you tomorrow.

First off, can't she take no for an answer? Secondly, could she not be so-self-absorded to at least comment on DD11's picture in a gallery? (That's exciting news here at my house) Two weeks ago she wanted lawyer-brother's work number because she was subpoena-ed by her HOA for something.

I am not answering the phone today. I don't have the emotional oomph to deal with her today. And boundaries ... what good are they if they don't keep the weeds out of the garden of my life?

Sorry to vent - I guess this is monetarily related in that her issue is most likely stemming from lack of money or lack of funds to a retain a lawyer. And the one thing I know is you cannot ignore a sudpeona!

Posted in Uncategorized | 8 Comments »

8 Responses to “Dealing with difficult people: Update”

Petunia Says:
January 23rd, 2009 at 06:50 am

With some people. . . you have to keep setting the boundary. . . again and again and again. Sounds like your friend is in that category.
Ima saver Says:
January 23rd, 2009 at 06:54 am

This is why i have an answering machine and never pick up the phone until I know who is calling!!
Broken Arrow Says:
January 23rd, 2009 at 07:18 am

A lot of guys are dense like that, and often times, I have to just tell them straight out that, although I are not trying to be mean, I really don't enjoy spending my time talking about stuff like that. I basically have to be direct or else they'll never get it.

And for guys anyway, although nobody likes being told such things, they typically appreciate it in the end, because we guys all admit somewhere that we're kind of dense. I don't know about how your friend will feel about that, and it's not like I'm really suggesting that's how you handle it. But perhaps you may want to consider it anyway.
mooshocker Says:
January 23rd, 2009 at 07:22 am

Be careful though. Her "need to talk" may be a cry for help over something. God bless and GREAT NEWS ABOUT DD11!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ceejay74 Says:
January 23rd, 2009 at 07:40 am

Good for you. Sounds like she doesn't have any comprehension that you might have a life too. That's no kind of friend to have around. Hopefully she'll come to her senses and you can be friends again, but for now, good riddance.
creditcardfree Says:
January 23rd, 2009 at 08:22 am

She's in a different reality than you. Enjoy a phone free day!!
gamecock43 Says:
January 23rd, 2009 at 09:32 am

I have a friend like that. Always drama that she brought on herself. Always needing to discuss every little thing. All the time calling. I dont pick up half the time because she drains my energy.
lizajane Says:
January 24th, 2009 at 12:50 pm

That's so cool about DD's artwork! Congratulations!!

He said. She Said. They Say ...

One couple's journey toward financial freedom

Dealing with difficult people: Update

8 Responses to “Dealing with difficult people: Update”

Leave a Reply